My friend is hosting my babyshower. She said before I even got pregnant that she wanted to host it. Okay, that's cool. Now my friend is a wonderful woman and I love her dearly and this is most likely more hormones than anything but I need to vent. My friend is trying to get through graduate school while working full time, her husband is working in another state (not close by in the least) and she has a college age son and a high school aged son living at home still. Needless to say she has a lot going on. We've been trying to figure out the best date for a baby shower for a while now.
Unfortuantely because we live so far away from family there really isn't going to be anyone from my family here. My mom's occupation is not the most conducive to her taking time off. If she takes time off she's loosing money, and if that is going to be the case I would rather her just wait and take the time off when Jr gets here. The only one who could really make it would be Chris' Mom. I really would like to have someone from my family here for the shower especially since this is my first child. I made sure that my friend knew that it is/was important to me that my mother in law be here for this. Despite the fact that I don't always get along with my mother in law, I do realize the fact that I am very lucky to have one who is so good to me.
Today I went to breakfast with the girls I play bunco with, because a former player and good friend was in town. It was a great time (and sorry Lizze I didn't get any pictures) till I went to leave. My friend who is planning the shower was also at the breakfast and she made a comment about how "Your mother in law is not helpful at all about planning the shower! She only gave me like two dates!" This kind of irritated me at the time - but uncharacteristically I let it go. I didn't say a word about it, just that we have 2 weddings in may on two seperate weekends and they are in diffrent places so it's rough. Then as I am putting my stuff in the car, my friend who is planning the shower tells me that she is thinking about the 25th of May - because that is the only weekend that will work for another friend. It was a contradiction of the impression she had given me beforehand. And that pretty much pissed me off. So here I sit, ticked off wanting to say something but knowing that if I do it's going to be a hormonal rant and it's not going to help anyone or anything (because I'll feel worse afterward).
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Okay, you've read the blog (I swear the cheesecake comment wasn't directed at you.) so you know my current state of mind. That said here's what I have to say...
If she wants to have your shower, GREAT. However, it is not her job to plan the shower around your/her friends schedules. Your schedule, yes. Her schedule, to a certain extent. Everyone else's and their mothers, brothers, sisters and priests? HECK NO!!! The two of you will pick a day - one where your MIL can attend - and everyone else will either make the time to get there. Or they won't. It is next to impossible to please everyone. So tell her to stop trying, grow a spine and sit down with you to pick a day.
And for what it's worth, I'm in the minority here, but I think the mother-to-be should also have a say-so in the decor picked for the shower. Maybe not final say but if the sight of all those ugly ducks makes you wanna yak then they should pick something else. I don't care how much the party thrower likes the ducks! Oh! And the food, the mother-to-be DEFINITELY gets a say in that! Your food aversions and cravings should be taken into account. Again I don't care what the party thrower likes, wants, hates...it's not her party!
I'm done now. :)
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